While I was on my annual family vacation to the Bahamas earlier this week, I saw a pretty bad-ass yacht in the harbor. What stood out to me the most was the name – Never Enough. Okay, if you have a yacht, maybe you have enough money. But that’s not really the point.
A lot of people think that the idea of never enough or never satisfied is a bad thing. I disagree. I believe in enjoying every moment that you draw breath, enjoying and learning from the journey of life, AND still striving to do more, have more, be more. The two concepts are not mutually exclusive. You can be fulfilled and content and still never be satisfied.
I love this quote from Tim S. Grover, the author of Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable, “Being the best means engineering your life so you never stop until you get what you want, and then you keep going until you get what’s next. And then you go for even more.”
No matter how much you accomplish from a material perspective, it will never be enough. Because ultimately, it’s not about the material. It is about finding joy in the struggle and the sweet comfort in that place of discomfort when you’re growing and changing and morphing into the person you want to be. Living your best life is hard and downright painful sometimes! It’s messy, it’s uncomfortable, and you’re going to want to give up more than once. But at the end of the day, it’s the grind and the struggle that creates happiness. Building something big (a company, a charity, a family, a team, a legacy) generates internal satisfaction that only leaves you wanting more! Never enough, right? How can you ever have enough joy, gratitude, fulfillment, giving, or growth?
Now, don’t get me wrong, material things are fun too (personally, I’m a bit of a car guy). Cars, houses, vacations, handbags, whatever, are great things to work for and if they make you feel great – go for it! But know this, you should be able to give away all of your material possessions and still have the same internal satisfaction you do with them. Do your things control you or do you control your things? It’s knowing you can control how you feel versus the item controlling your identity and how you feel about yourself. So by all means, go buy that sports car, that new watch, or that beach house, or give all of your money away. Material things will never provide the internal satisfaction that you are after – grit, growth, and gratitude do that and those don’t cost any money!
I was listening to Powerful: Creating a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility (a book about Netflix’s culture) on the flight home and it struck me how Netflix has created a place where people who embody this philosophy live and thrive. They aren’t interested in incentivizing their team or offering company perks, but they are committed to building teams of high performers who want to be treated like adults (freedom) who love coming together to creatively solve problems (responsibility) and grow the company, while growing personally. I am proud of the fact that that is the culture that we are building at Adam Hergenrother Companies. A company were mediocrity is not tolerated (by me or my team members!), where we are all striving to grow personally through our business success. Good enough is not in our vocabulary. Never enough is.
No matter where you are now or where you “get” on your journey, remember that you will never have enough, you will always strive for more and that’s okay, because the next growth phase is life!